The Bay Area may be chock-full of gay boy bars - but the lesbian scene is absolutely still going strong. And hell, we’ve got the dance parties to prove it! With weekly and monthly events, there's always something (or someone, if you get my drift) to do. We've curated a list of our favorite lesbian parties, all of which make it part of their mission to provide a safe space for lesbians, trans-people, POC, and their friends. Boys are certainly welcome to join as long as they're respectful and bring along their best dance moves!
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EVERY TUESDAY // QBAR // SAN FRANCISCO
The saying goes, “Lesbians wife up and stay at home with their cats." While this may be true - we love our cats! No shame! in that! - we're more than willing to go out for QBar's weekly party.
EVERY 1ST + 3RD WEDNESDAY // WHITE HORSE BAR // OAKLAND
This drag king night is a hugely popular meetup for lesbians. Get those dolla bills ready to toss (or put into their clothing, if so inclined) to the acts that keep this night alive and packed each week. After the show a DJ spins tunes so you can keep the party going until you realize you definitely have work in the morning.
EVERY 2ND WEDNESDAY // UPTOWN // SAN FRANCISCO
This free night is open to queers of all kinds. No judgement, all party. Bring all your babes and buddies for cheap drinks, tunes, and some flirty fun.
EVERY 3RD THURSDAY // THE PORT BAR // OAKLAND
Oakland is coming up fierce in the queer party scene, and SPACE proves it. This party is a declared safe space for queers of all genders. A relatively new addition to the queer party scene, The Port Bar is already a great spot for East Bay-ers to gather and have fun any night of the week.
EVERY 4TH THURSDAY // STARLINE SOCIAL CLUB // OAKLAND
Celebrate bodies of all kinds with this dance party in East Bay, featuring Dreams and DJ Deity. They frequently host guest DJs as well, so the beats are always fresh and the babes always fine.
EVERY FRIDAY // JOLENE'S BAR // SAN FRANCISCO
What do lesbians bring on a second date? A Uhaul! (Never heard that one before, right?) This party takes that stereotype and owns it, actively creating a space for girls who love girls. Meet your future boo in their hip-hop room or in their house room, or meet two in each room and take them both home. We don't judge.
EVERY 1ST FRIDAY // TEMESCAL BREWING // OAKLAND
Every first Friday is a queer party on Temescal Brewing's patio! They always have a food truck serving up bites to keep you going while you dance the night away with fresh brews and cute queers. Don't fret if it's raining, either, Temescal's got you covered - literally, given their outdoor tent.
EVERY 1ST SATURDAY // // OAKLAND
Not only is Ships in the Night one of the biggest parties in the Bay, each edition is a benefit for current social justice initiatives and non-profits! Ships provides a fun, accessible space for queers, women, trans people, and people of color.
EVERY 1ST SATURDAY // // OAKLAND
DJs drinks, and dancing: what more could ya want? This party has been going since 2008 and shows no signs of stopping. They donate their cover to various nonprofits around the Bay Area, so you can feel good about going out!
EVERY 2ND SATURDAY // THE PORT BAR // OAKLAND
Fresh on the Bay Area queer party scene, UNIQ features queer performers and DJs all while raising money / awareness for local non-profits. It's a party where you're encouraged to be uniquely you, so get out there and dance your heart out.
EVERY 3RD SATURDAY // THE UPTOWN // OAKLAND
Those in the city will have to trek over to Oakland for this one, but trust us, it’s worth it! This queer event always has great DJ sets and a mix of all genders and personalities. The bar and dance floor are in separate rooms which makes it nice for those who have to repeat their drink orders three times to be heard. We love the cozy patio where you can hang out but still hear the tunes.
EVERY 4TH SATURDAY // EL RIO // SAN FRANCISCO
Get this: Mango is an easygoing and damn near perfect daytime outdoor party with BBQ and great tunes! The proof is in the longevity: this party recently celebrated its 20th anniversary. Arrive early since there's always a line down the block.
EVERY 4TH SATURDAY // STARLINE SOCIAL CLUB // OAKLAND
One of the newer queer dance parties in the Bay Area, Passionfruit brings the juice with hip-hop, R&B, reggaeton, and more. Hit the dancefloor with a cup of their (semi-poisonous) Passionfruit Punch and get down.
EVERY 1ST SUNDAY + 3RD FRIDAY // EL RIO (SUNDAY) + SF OASIS (FRIDAY) // SAN FRANCISCO
This party's so poppin' it goes off twice a month at two different venues! Hip-hop and club music keep your body moving all night long with a crowd of amazing people. You'll be sure to find some fashion-forward, booty-shakin' queers at these parties.
A party unlike any other! Stay home, relax in your PJs, and catch up on quality time with your cat. Mondays are party-free, y'all. We all need a day to recover.
Want more? We've got more. Hit up our guides to the best old school gay bars and the gayest restaurants in the Bay.
Queerfully curated by Brigitte Hoch